If you want someone to like you then applying the Golden Rule is a good start.
What do I mean by that? Well, if you make other people feel good about themselves, they will like you and seek opportunities to see you again to repeat the good feeling they felt the first time.
The mistake most of us make when we are meeting someone is that we’re focused on ourselves and not on the other person. We put our needs before their needs. The irony is that if they like you, other people are happy to help you get what you want.
But there’s a second part to this equation. Do you ever find yourself avoiding people because they:
- Come on too strong
- Talk incessantly
- Go too slow, or
- See the downside of everything
Pick one of the above. Chances are, the one you picked is the opposite of your behavioral style.
You see, people have specific ways they prefer to interact with others. It’s true of you, and it’s true of everyone else. In other words, if you can mirror someone’s behavioral style back to them, they will respond favorably. In doing so, you make them feel good about themselves and they conclude that they like you!
So, wouldn’t it be cool if you could tell, just by watching someone for a few minutes, what style they are comfortable with?
That way, when you approach them, you could adapt to that style and they’d be more receptive to talking to you. Then, before you know it, you’re on that person’s good side.
Where you take it after that is up to you!
